There will be a mass  at the Sacred Heart Shrine (Lupit Church) Bacolod City,  at 5:30PM on Tuesday, June 14 2011. 
Dinner will be at Chicken House, Araneta Ext., Bacolod City.

A mass is also offered for Maria V. Quebrar at 5:45PM  Tuesday, June 14 2011  at Sto. Niño de Paz Greenbelt Chapel, Makati.

by Nonoy Quebrar

Everything has an end and as we all know that our life is just a borrowed life from God. 

To our beloved mother Mary Vesagas Quebrar, let me speak from my heart how glad I am to be one of your sons and having you as a mother. 

Mommy was a woman full of faith and a figure of unconditional love.  I believe that in her own unique way of nurturing us she created a legacy for us to uphold and fulfill in our daily lives.

Mommy was a true woman of faith.  As far as I can remember, she would never miss a Sunday to share the word and love of God together with Daddy.

With that faith, she lead a good example for us and that reminds us that no matter what the circumstance is, God is always there watching over us.

Her unconditional love in raising 17 children and taking care of Daddy were never easy tasks.  But she made it and inculcated in us the true meaning of family.  She was indeed a joyful woman.  Her sense of joy for life was enough to make us all smile no matter what the circumstance and befriend those she barely known.

Mommy as you happily join Daddy and our Heavenly Father, I personally accept the responsibility to continue and uphold the values that you and Dad taught us, your children, grandchildren and great grandchildren.

As the dove of life that represents all that you are now soars to heaven above, it is now your time to rest, sit back in that big cozy armchair which is now heaven for you. 

Goodbye Mommy we love you very much.

by Teresa Q. Manalili

MARIA VESAGAS QUEBRAR.  Friends and relatives fondly called her simply as MARY.  Mary was our dearest mommy.  Mary was a super loving mom to 12 boys and 5 girls.  Everyone who knows our family gets amazed with the strength of a mother who raised 17 children.  I could not imagine placing myself in her shoes.  I only have 2 kids and whenever I think of Mommy as a mother, I feel so little.  She was full of LOVE and PATIENCE to her 17 children.  She poured her heart of KINDNESS and PERSEVERANCE to all of us.  Mommy made every child in the family feel VERY SPECIAL.

 I would always cherish in my heart those memories when I was a kid wherein Saturdays or Sundays we would share the fun of washing lots of dirty clothes at a well beside our house in Rosario.  Washing clothes with Mommy was like having a Picnic Party all the time.  Why?  Because after washing clothes together with some of my brothers and sisters, we would fill up the small tub and swim together the whole morning. Come noon time, she would bring outside all the food that she cooked for lunch and right there outside the house where we washed our clothes, we would enjoy the swimming party to our heart’s desire.  You can just imagine that regularly we did this activity from grade school years up to my college years.

 Mommy had lots of interests and motherly itineraries that I cherished so much.  She would always tag me along Libertad  market to buy our everyday viand.  I remember that at times, she would take me to Central market to buy fish and vegetables, passed by her favorite drugstores to buy medicine, window shopped for shoes without buying anything at the end.  She would tag me along to visit relatives and friends.  With my mother, many landmarks and memories were retained in my thoughts that we used to visit and do during my younger days in 60’s 70’s and 80’s.  As these thoughts flashed back, I realized nga sang una gali, si Mommy puerte kapalalagaw.  Amo gali nga sang my Alzheimer’s na siya pirme niya ginahambal kung hapon nga “malakat na ko kay mapuli na ko.”  We will tell her, “ti ari ka man dire sa balay nga-a mapuli ka?”  Masabat na siya, “Ay hindi ko ni ya balay ya.  Mapuli na ko ah.”  All of us, her children and grandchildren would enjoy talking to her even if she had lingering sickness of forgetfulness because she would relate funny antics that would keep us smile and laugh.  The prevalent loss of memory was her greatest fear because I remember that when I was younger, she would say that she didn’t want to be the same with his grandma who was very “uli-anon” kuno.  Little did she knew, maging amo man gali siya.  And as her child, daw hadlok man ko ah, kay basi bala magpareho ko may Mommy bala nga pwerte ka malipaton.

 At 89 years old, we know Mommy lived a FULL life of service, love and dedication to our Almighty, to our father, PASTOR and to her 17 children.  Words would not suffice how she offered her life to GOD, to Daddy and all of us, her children and more than a hundred grandchildren.

 Mommy, I will miss you very dearly.  I know that you are with our Creator now.  I am so happy that finally, you are now with Jesus Christ in heaven – in a resting place that is peaceful and full of eternal joy.  Remember, this was what you told me when I was young that you once dreamt of heaven – with Sacred Heart of Jesus and Immaculate Heart of Mary welcoming you.  You said, there was nothing but everlasting JOY in your heart when you were in that place.  NOW, that you are ONE with Jesus and Mama Mary in heaven, we fervently pray that you and Daddy are together in your Final Resting Place as we know that your love for each other is Endless, in the blessing and grace of GOD forever.  We thank you and we love you very much Mommy. 

by Mepa Q. Conde

Four years ago when Mommy was hospitalized because of the flu and other complications we thought it would be her last.  She became comatose but then she woke up and told us of her dream.  She said her relatives long dead visited her and invited her to go with them.  She answered them with a very firm “No, not yet!”  And then she woke up.  We asked her if Dad was there too, but she said he was not around.  Dad was mommy’s first and only love.  We know how much she must have loved him because when Mom couldn’t remember or recognized any of us, she had alzheimer’s disease, it was only Dad she could never forget.  When she was fed and did not want to eat, or when she was bathe, manicured and changed, the mere mention that Pastor will come to visit her, her face would light up and would allow the care giver to feed her and clean her.  When asked who her boyfriend was, she  always says – Pastor.

Mom was very particular of how she looked.  Her make up kit and perfume that Dad gifted her were all imported ones because she didn’t go for the local.  Maybe that also explains why she started to speak English during the duration of her illness.  Mom was a good seamstress.  She made her own dresses, designed them and she really looked good in them.  She also knows how to curd hairs – this she practiced on us and the neighbors too.  Because she loved to always look beautiful first hour of the day, she was already made up and smelled good.  Perhaps, that was the reason why there are 17 of us who came out into this world.

To described my mom as a mother and a wife, all the nice adjectives would be very long and I’m sure we would not be able to come out of this church until dawn.  And so, I want to tell you that Mommy was super in everything.  She loved, she cared, she sacrificed, she gave her all for us.  She really was a super mom.

Mom was very proud of her name – Maria or Mary as we often call her, because she was named after Mama Mary.  She was a devotee of our Blessed Mother and always prayed to Her in difficult times.  She was also a devotee of the Sacred Heart of Jesus and Mary of the Miraculous Medal, The Legion of Mary, and the Habit of the Lourdes.  Dad and Mom always put God first in their daily life.  There are 17 siblings and I just can’t imagine how Dad and Mom took care of all of us but I think it must have been their support and love for each other and with God’s guidance that helped them tackled this difficult job.

During Mom’s invalid years, we all did our part to keep her happy and comfortable.  My brothers and sisters, my brothers and sisters in laws, all the grand children gave their support and love.  To all of them, my thanks and appreciation.  But my special appreciation and thanks go to Brod Alan, who devoted almost half of his life taking care of Mom, waking up in the middle of the night to attend to her, in fact, doing all the “dirty works” in attending to Mom’s needs.  And also to Brod Maurice who was Alan’s assistant doing and helping him in taking care of Mom.  A big hand to these two who were always with Mommy morning , noon and night when the rest of us could not be there all the time.

Monday, June 14, 2010, 3:45PM – D Day.   This was the day when Mom finally left with Dad.  The first time she was fetched, Dad was not there, so she did not go, but this time Dad was there together with our Junior Pastor, Our Lawyer, Warlito, and also our beloved aunt and second mother, Tiyay Trining who helped took care of us and devoted all here life to attend to us and never married – they were there to fetch her and so she went.

Thank you all for coming not to mourn with us, but to celebrate with us for Mom’s home coming to our Heavenly Father.